- 1. Learn to listen to people
- 2. Stop worrying about what others think about you
- 3. Find the reason of your embarrassment and work on getting it fixed
- 4. Improve and develop your social skills
- 5. Take the initiative
- 6. Be careful
- 7. Reconfigure your thinking
- 8. Avoid moments of silence in conversation
- 9. Make positive comments and compliments
- 10. Plan how to conduct a conversation
The ability to communicate ensures success in your career and personal life. However, people are all different, and conditionally they can be divided into two groups. First — interesting interlocutors, who will find common language with anyone. Secondly — shy undecideds that will crush and blush even in the presence of one stranger. Communication skills are developed not at all. They depend on many factors: character, education, environment communication. But people who can't build a conversation, is very hard in life. So if you don't have effective communication skills and are afraid to talk to strangers, you need to work on yourself. Proper communication can be learned. Below is a list of ways that will allow you to avoid embarrassment in communicating with unfamiliar people.
10. Plan how to conduct a conversation
Of course, plan the conversation impossible. You don't know how to behave in the source, what questions to ask. But you can prepare. If it is an interview, make a sample answers to common questions. If meet the parents of the second half, prepare some interesting stories from my childhood. In any case, prepare your questions, then the conversation is "one-sided". You will not only appreciative listener, and a full participant in the conversation. Depending on who you have to communicate, consider the style of conversation. Some people are afraid to communicate with strangers even on the phone. In this case, to prepare even simpler, write a sample dialogue on a piece of paper.
9. Make positive comments and compliments
Your spokesman said in the tenth story, and you just silently nod. And with each reply, you become heavier. You think about what an hour you have not uttered a word. You physically feel the stiffness, you don't want anything at all to say. And even indifferent to the opinions of the interlocutor. Don't be afraid to talk. If you find it difficult to tell something to a stranger, listen to him. But listen with interest, comment, wonder, praise him. You will not notice how the connect to the conversation. Gonna be hard at first, but then you will feel the ease and desire to communicate.
8. Avoid moments of silence in conversation
When in conversation there is a pause, people feel uncomfortable. Someone starts to sort out in my head all sorts of topics to continue the conversation, but never finds the right one. Someone starts to panic, he scolds himself for being so General agreed to this meeting. If the conversation came a moment of silence, don't wait to speak to another person, say yourself. Can chat on any topic, tell us about the film, which recently went on to the interior or the menu if you sit in a cafe. Talk about anything, even about the weather. If you don't know what else to talk about, ask questions. You will support the conversation and learn new things about the other person.
7. Reconfigure your thinking
The majority of people do attract trouble his thoughts. If you think about the upcoming chat with the stranger as something scary, so be it. You will tremble with fear, worry, and the two words can not connect. Relax, your friend is an ordinary person with their concerns and problems. It is unlikely that he will remember your conversation at a later time. Think about the meeting as a pleasant event in your life as an opportunity to try himself in communication with a new person. With a positive person to communicate easily, be so.
6. Be careful
Their thoughts and worries, you have again lost the thread of the conversation. But the conversation will be much easier if you listen to what the other person says. Concentrate, don't think about their problems, communicate. If your partner will notice that you are not listening to him that you're not interested, maybe he did not want to talk with you more. If you are sincerely interested in his stories, he will see you. The conversation will flow effortless and you don't have to seek out topics of conversation.
5. Take the initiative
Don't be afraid to take the initiative. Modesty and shyness will not make you a pleasant conversationalist. Engage the source, you position it to yourself. Feel free to suggest ideas. If the company of your friend, and you don't know anyone, instead of sitting in a café will offer a trip to the bowling alley. For a friendly game you would rather meet you, and they will be grateful that you had a nice time. Take the first steps in communication. But do not overdo it, do not confuse creativity and audacity, is a completely different concept.
4. Improve and develop your social skills
If you are not very sociable, it can be corrected. Of course, if you are willing to make efforts and to learn something new. The development of social skills, many books. There are various techniques and principles of effective communication skills. But they all have some common features and involve the development of verbal and non-verbal communication, control of emotions, ability to feel the interlocutor, to empathize with him. In addition, many cities conduct training, including effective communication. There you will have to deal not only with theory, but to perform tasks in practice. You may need to meet someone on the street, and then report back to the group and mentors.
3. Find the reason of your embarrassment and work on getting it fixed
Think what is the cause of your problems in communication. Typically, such situations arise from people unsure of themselves. In this case, you need to work on your self-esteem. In some cases, the awkwardness in communication is due to past negative experiences. Here to cope on their own is unlikely to succeed, to help you will be a qualified psychologist. Don't try to solve their problems, forcing yourself to communicate with a large number of strangers. So you will exacerbate the situation. This communication is not natural, and the consequences of the experiments can be sad, depression may develop.
2. Stop worrying about what others think about you
Often people fear other people's opinions. This is the most common cause of stiffness in communication. You are afraid of ridicule interlocutor, and therefore prefer to remain silent. I think to tell the story, but worried that you will misunderstand. Don't overestimate yourself, it is quite possible that the other person is thinking and forget about you when you disappear from his sight. Immerse your thoughts in the conversation and not think about what he thinks about you the source.
1. Learn to listen to people
This is the most important quality of a good companion. People don't listen to each other, it is important to talk, to listen. If you listen to his interlocutor with attention and interest, he'll tell you the same. Many pretend to listen, and do miss the words on deaf ears. You can get into an awkward situation. Try to concentrate on the conversation, dismissing all the distractions. If you learn to listen to the interlocutor, it will be very useful in professional activities, and personal life.