Causeless fatigue, attention span, depressed, sad look when we see these signs from a friend of the man day after day, we realize that he is in a state of depression. If an ordinary bad mood is for the day and does not promise to the person that's okay, people with depression need urgent help. It is very important that loved ones were there and helped to overcome the daily melancholy and depression. It is true that such a person is constantly talking, to bring him a revelation and help to deal with the difficult situation. But there are a few phrases that in no event it is impossible to tell people with depression.
10. "You have so many things to be thankful for"
A person can have all the material wealth and seem very successful, and inside at the same time feel oppressed and devastated. The more your friend is now in no condition to feel the appreciation and gratitude to the fate. It seems that depression will stay with him forever. But such a person is very important to realize that depression can be successfully treated, and your task is to convince him of that. Offer him ways to combat melancholy and support him in wanting to deal with it.
9. "Others are even worse"
When your child hears this phrase, he immediately begins to experience tremendous guilt and shame in front of those same people who were in a worse situation than he is. Such a remark can only exacerbate the condition of people in the doldrums. A person with your own pain it is very difficult to feel the pain of another. Your loved ones need to understand that you will support it and will remain there, but to other people he has no absolutely no business. So to blame the person with depression just not worth it.
8. "Life's not fair..."
When you say this phrase, you are trying to convey to a person with depression, I share with him his pain and feel about the same as he is. But in fact, you can't get into the head of your friend and experience for yourself his woeful condition. Plus, the fact that you, too, can be bad, can only further drive a person in a melancholic state. A good alternative may be as simple as a hug and full support of the other. This brings into his life a little of warmth and joy.
7. "You're too sensitive"
This replica can't promise anything except low self-esteem. Instead of trying to analyze their condition and make it your friend will begin to consider themselves too weak and broken. Such soul-searching can lead to a worse mental state. Instead tell the person on the weakness of his character, try every day to pay attention to him and give new emotions. Go together to the cinema, cafes, an amusement Park and try to ensure that your friend smiled more often.
6. "I know, I've been there too!"
The man who never was really in the doldrums, can not know what it is actually. Do not confuse depression with low mood, frequent depression and melancholy feeling. According to psychotherapists, people even today do not have a sufficiently clear idea about the disease. If you claim such, thereby creating the illusion that to be depressed is a normal condition that can happen to anyone. On the contrary, you openly admit to a friend that don't know how he goes through all of this. But add that you are willing to support it.
5. "Just be happy"
Are you trying to configure other on positive thinking, and it would be correct, but such a statement is very unfortunate. Psychologists say that cognitive therapy aims at replacing negative thoughts is good, actually very effective. That's just immediately replace the negative to the positive will not work. The point is, what do you suggest to just change the person in depression your mind, but it is actually not necessary to change thoughts and actions. Your friend does not have to convince himself that he is good, he needs to take real steps to make him feel better. And your job is to be there and help him to do these same steps.
4. Have a drink!
A friend that you suggest to forget in a state of alcoholic intoxication, can really take advantage of this advice. But there is a risk that spirits do every time saving the person from negative thoughts, can log in to his habit. Drinking alcohol over and over again, your loved one may lose control. In the end, the alcohol will stop to help, but depression will not go away, it adds even more health problems and bad habits.
3. "Just go with it"
If the person is in a state of depression, is well aware of that, but not talking to the experts and makes no attempt to deal with such condition, it means that he has therefore resigned. And the best thing you can say to a friend in this situation, that you will always be connected and ready not only to talk about his condition, but also to maintain. If it's really bad, you can worry about finding a psychotherapist or psychologist who is able to professionally help get rid of depression.
2. Think about loved ones who care about you!
This phrase can only add to the depressive state of a person anxiety for the family. He will think about how much pain it causes loved ones, and depression in the end will only get worse. Another will be a feeling of guilt towards all those who suffer because of it. Try instead to gather all the people who worry about your General acquaintance, and make the man some unforgettable days in the company of loved ones. This will give him the confidence that he is not alone.
1. "Cheer up! Life goes on!"
Many people who survived the depression, talking about what it's like to live with a granite slab within. People want to get up and start moving in some direction, but just can't do it out of a sense of gravity. So your friend just suddenly unable to stop thinking negatively and running towards a wonderful life without depression. It is a long and difficult journey. If I move on and forget about the depression was that easy, believe me, your friend would have long since already done. Give other hope that is not far off a time when things will get better. Psychologists say that the main task of family is to constantly be there to encourage a person with depression.