- 1. Occasions for quarrels should be as small as possible
- 2. Tattling isn't always bad
- 3. Should not be to blame and right
- 4. Determine what is unacceptable
- 5. If the kids are fighting – they have to go
- 6. Less contact – less fight
- 7. To be a sister or brother is cool!
- 8. Most important – relationships
- 9. Bickering and fighting is not the norm
- 10. Children are unlikely to understand yourself
Unfortunately, the children in the family does not always live in peace and harmony. Many parents constantly have to stop quarreling children, but they quickly start fighting again, bringing mom and dad to despair.
Do not think that this situation is hopeless: you just have to learn to find the approach to the young debaters.
Consider the simple guidelines to help reconcile the warring children.
10. Children are unlikely to understand yourself
To divide the territory peculiar to many animals. People, of course, difficult cats, so they have less strict rules and not so literal distribution.
You can't determine who is stronger and stop to sort things out. We all have our ways of influencing "the rival": one starts to say another hit, the third will try to psychologically manipulate.
Some parents believe that it is better not to interfere, and give the warring children to understand themselves, but it often leads nowhere. They continue to sort things out indefinitely.
Mom and dad must ensure that their children assimilate human laws and rules to keep peace in the common area.
9. Bickering and fighting is not the norm
Adults often say that fights between children – this is absolutely normal, however, this opinion is erroneous.
Some brothers and sisters, of course, lucky, and after the constant skirmishes they grow up as normal people that are not in conflict relations.
However, many other examples. Children, who previously fought all the time, can begin to hate each other as adults.
8. Most important – relationships
If dad constantly gives kids the cuffs, and mother all the time shouting at them, sons and daughters will adopt negative behavior of parents.
If adult friendly, positive, smallest members of the family will almost certainly be exactly the same.
Most importantly – respect each other: since childhood, the people in front of the eyes should be only a positive example. Otherwise your children will scream and hands on with their families when they grow up.
7. To be a sister or brother is cool!
Try to emphasize this as a preventive measure every day. Utter this phrase without a reason, just like that. It is recommended to begin even before the emergence of conflict situations.
If a quarrel has already become frequent, try to use reconciliation for every peaceful minute.
It really is very good helps children feel solidarity, learn to appreciate each other and quarrel less and less. If conflicts do arise, they are still very quickly come to naught.
6. Less contact – less fight
If the children quarrel all the time, probably, do not leave them together alone. Of course, you do not have to be present with them in the same room all my life, but it is better to do it while they are still small.
Try to frequently organize joint games, walks – and while these activities do not leave children alone. If the situation is very complicated, whenever possible, to divide the kids: for example, one to leave at home, and send another to drawing classes or any other club. If children have a mother and father, you can even take a walk individually.
5. If the kids are fighting – they have to go
As soon as the kids start to fight or quarrel, immediately spread them apart as far as possible from each other. At some time will have to leave them alone: no joint games and other such entertainment. Children need to understand why it is so punished.
It is not necessary to show any emotions, to abuse kids. Let it be like a law of nature: a last resort, need to leave.
Over time, the periods of calmness will start to become longer: usually children are ready to follow the rules of communication, as they are very much cherish them.
4. Determine what is unacceptable
Clearly label what kids can do, and what they are forbidden. Rules all families are different: they depend on the nature of the problems, the age of the sons, daughters and many other factors.
For younger children, for example, the current ban "no fighting, no biting" for high – "don't touch personal things to each other, not to be rude". Try to understand what exactly is the problem and start solving it after that.
3. Should not be to blame and right
Even if the problems that often arise because of one child, there should not be any time to appoint him guilty.
Parent help is needed not only to weak children who are the victims, but also the Hamam, the fighters. You should not say: "knock it off". Better way: "Stop fighting".
Otherwise, the child, picking on a brother or sister all the time will feel like the black sheep, the outcast, and this will only lead to more aggression on his part.
2. Tattling isn't always bad
Every child should be allowed to tell his version of what happened. Snitch is not a bad thing, then if there is no punishment, and without it it is possible.
Parents just have to be aware of what is going on between their children, and to take into account the opinion of each participant's argument. This will provide protection for weak and for strong.
If siblings will understand that adults still know it and they would be much better to control yourself and eventually virtually cease to interfere.
1. Occasions for quarrels should be as small as possible
Because people still refer to the animal world, they very much don't like to share. This especially applies to children.
Try to make your sons and daughters simply did not have to share space, toys and so on. The less there is, the less conflict.
Try to pay attention to each child and not play favorites: it is very good to help keep the peace in the house.