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10 parenting mistakes, in which you risk to grow aggressive child

 

Aggressive behavior can appear in a child of any age. In this way he tries to Express his negative emotions: anger, irritation, anger. Aggressive children insult others, threaten them, argue, and provoke a fight.

Sometimes this trait is associated with a feature of the nervous system of the child. If he has a weak unbalanced type of the CNS, it does not tolerate any discomfort, both physical and psychological. Through aggression the child expresses his fear, fatigue, malaise.

But most often the formation of aggression in children contribute to the parents. If they often conflict, show disrespect and cruelty, children begin to copy this behavior. Some mistakes in upbringing can cause the child will grow up unruly and aggressive.

10. The habit of speaking in a raised voice

If parents became the norm to communicate well not only with children but also with other people, we should not be surprised that the kid had adopted this style of communication. He often is rude and rude, and the cry of the mother or father does not pay attention.

Experts believe that the person begins to speak in a raised voice to attract attention, he wants to be heard. But as it turned out, psychological laws working against him. As soon as someone raises his voice, the interlocutor is included the mechanism of rejection. He hears about what he said but it goes "deaf ears". Scream is a sign of weakness.

If the person is insecure, he tries to assert his status with the help of the Creek. Often parents shout at the child because he is the most helpless, can't fire, as the boss, or to turn away, friend. Then the child concludes – might makes right. And becomes despotic and aggressive with those who are weaker than him.

9. You swear at the child

Often it is necessary to sort out relations with the husband or other relatives, because not all get to live without conflict. But, even if they are in your family, never swear in front of children.

The baby grows up, will my family. He will build a relationship like his parents, and in this case to show aggression towards his mate. He can form a negative attitude towards a particular gender, for example, to all women, if he is sympathetic to the Pope, or men, if spared the mother.

The baby grows and absorbs a negative experience, watch the hostility. For him it becomes the norm, and he starts to behave well. Any conflict is traumatic situation, the consequences of which can be fear, anxiety, and sometimes neurosis, mental illness.

8. You constantly punish him

Punishment, any, not just physical – it is the most disastrous method of education. Often, punishing parents trying to convey to him " don't do that!", but they forget to explain exactly how to do that. A child experiences a storm of emotions: anxiety, humiliation, revenge. Not one of them promotes the formation of good behavior.

If it is frequently punished, he becomes hostile towards parents. Timid children become closed, and easily excitable – aggressive. Because of the punishment the children fear appears, it can become pathological, as well as the habit of lying, hostility and revenge.

7. Respond to requests for the child only after he gets mad

The child asks from you, but instead to pay attention to the needs of the child, you ignore it. It can be any request: a glass of water, a desire to hear a bedtime story, play with him Board games, etc.

When he just appeals to you, you do not listen to the child, but it is worth it to get angry, start screaming and breaking things, you quickly give him what he wants. So the kid remembers: I can achieve something only using aggression. And it is not surprising that it has grown uncontrollable and noisy.

6. You inspire the child that is to blame only himself

You yelled at the kid, punish him, and then convinced that the fault is not you, but himself. So he learned that in any aggression is to blame the victim. In the future he will easily lash out at others without feeling any remorse. If the parent will instill in the baby a sense of guilt, man will grow with a lot of complexes, passive, childish.

5. You never explain to a child why get mad at him

The argument "because I said so" or "as necessary" is unconvincing. If the baby you upset, did something wrong, he needs to explain how to do it right and why you got angry. If you just shout, the child develops anxiety, and, as a consequence, aggressive behavior.

4. Your child is constantly watching the militants

Scenes of violence affect the child's psyche. An adult can critically evaluate everything that he sees on the screen. And the child is sure that this is the way to behave, perceives the seen as the guide to action.

He formed a criminal style of thinking: you need to destroy the offender, and not necessarily by legal means. The strong and the rich can do as they want. Children begin to think that all problems should be solved with violence, and the one who shoots and kills many people, can be a positive hero.

When a person looks at the TV screen his brain for scenes of violence reacts as real: there is anxiety and fear, self-doubt, the need to escape or to be aggressive. If such scenes he sees all the time, the sensitivity to them is lost. The child becomes accustomed to violence, and he coolly makes a not-so-good things.

3. You never praise your child

If he has achieved something, you don't want to celebrate his successes and achievements. But always focus on his shortcomings that he always strived for perfection.

But these parents raise the kid an inferiority complex. It appears the aggression is directed at yourself. People who are unhappy with themselves can't enjoy life, it accumulates negative, which then could lead to other people.

2. Not standing up for the kid in a difficult situation

The other kids hurt him, taken away toys, but you don't want to interfere, because are sure that the child himself must learn to fight back. And if he could not defend himself, so for him a kind of school of life. Proper behavior children should teach the parents. And, encouraging aggression, you will not make a child strong and confident, and crippled his psyche.

1. Your child is not getting enough sleep

The nervous system of the child needs to rest and recovery. If you let him stay up late and then awake in the morning, her body may not respond. The synthesis of melatonin slows down, increases the level of stress hormone – cortisol. Because of this, children become impulsive, irritable, they often change the mood. It is important to observe the sleep mode, the child should not accumulate fatigue.

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