Nigel Latta is a psychologist from New Zealand, it is called a true magician of modern child psychology. Latta, Nigel practiced for 16 years, and is recognized as an expert on running, and hopeless cases.
His acquired knowledge is needed not only to families with difficult children, but also in the ordinary. Thanks to those basic principles which he outlined in education can be achieved by understanding. The child will perceive the parents as enemies, and to cover them, and will be friendly.
If you only want to have children, then you might want to read this article. You will already know how to behave and avoid mistakes in upbringing.
10. Develop relationships
People used to develop relationships with their friends, partners, but somehow forget to do it with their children.
The child – the same person, and it is not only necessary to criticize or praise, to assess the actions from the point of view of a parent, and to communicate and try to understand it.
The child should be treated as individuals and with respect. By your example you teach your child to interact with other people, and the relationship should be human, sincere.
Many parents make one big mistake – bullied child, if he is doing something wrong. Once he grows up, and already will not have fear before you, but the incentive to police the morals of the he will not.
9. Give attention
Young children are very greedy for attention and they need it a lot, almost to excess. It's never enough, and to get it, the children resorted to various tricks.
For example, many children learn that parents notice their moods, often using them for their own purposes. That's just it backfires on them.
The thing is that the children inherent natural instinct with my parents they feel safe and are willing to do everything that you do not leave them even for a minute. If you long to leave a child unattended, by his indulgence, he will suck you dry.
8. Show sympathy
All children have an innate sense that the parents love them. Even if you scold and punish your child – he still believes in your love. But if we talk about sympathy, it is quite another.
Children feel that people were indifferent to them and are even with the chill. As well they feel if their parents do not feel the sympathy.
Parents know what is love, but love is difficult. Parental love is an instinct, a sympathy may arise in the case, if you like, making your child you enjoy his personality.
Try to pay more attention to your child, ask them, and nurture in him the man you love.
7. Expose the border
Sometimes some parents don't set boundaries for their children and allowed their upbringing to chance. What will come of this? Nothing good. Moms are afraid to limit what your children, because they are small and fragile, and their psyche is damaged from the vagaries.
If you let your kids everything, then they become real monsters.
Don't be afraid to spoil relations with your child – give him severe restrictions, and say, "No", if he commits bad deeds. Then soon the time will come when he will remember that "no" and you will be able to breathe easy.
6. Encourage good
You liked the fact that the child had done? Encourage him for it. The fact is that when the child will feel your contentment them, then any traits to grow.
The main rule is to ignore the bad things, but always notice good and to praise for them. Tell your child as often as possible, happy with his good behavior.
If you don't like his whims – it is not necessary to talk about it and show their dissatisfaction. Time will pass and the child is not receiving your attention, he will cease to act up.
For the same actions don't need to praise, to punish, observe the sequence. Nobody said that a parent to be easy, but you chose this.
For the sake of preservation of peace the parent may begin to behave inappropriately, and the child will not understand why something for which he previously praised, is now ignored.
Try not to confuse your child – if something you praised him – continue to do if something "impossible", then let it remain banned, even despite the fact that you have a good mood.
4. Not goodbye
Parents are very much mistaken when you forgive your child for bad behavior. The children learned that if he did something bad, time will pass and parents will forgive them.
If a child offends his parents, misbehaving, throwing tantrums – don't need to forgive it. If the child's inappropriate behavior is not just to ignore and to stop.
You do not need to suppress the will of your child – he may be my opinion, he can argue with you, and treated without respect – no.
Disputes, on the contrary, a very important element in dealing with a child – they mean that it grows independent person and he can think.
3. The behavior – communication
Parents sometimes do not realize that their behavior the child wants something to convey to them. This is not always done consciously, but he wants to attract attention.
Even if your child is acting very badly – so he's trying to communicate something. Bad behavior could mean yet that you are wrong to bring it up, encouraging, in those situations in which you do not want, do not pay attention.
Please note that your baby is doing. What is he trying to say? You as a parent have to figure it out.
2. Don't fight
Children will always be chaos, confusion, turmoil, which you are not able to cope... If you were calm, measured life, with the advent of children, she changes.
Your order can be destroyed at any time, and it should be accepted. If you do not, then chaos will defeat you.
If the beginning of the madness – your child is naughty, it argues, offends you, wait out this moment, after the storm will appear the sun.
1. Make a plan
Children are different, some more calm, others uncontrollable. The second more difficult. So, if you want to educate unmanageable child – you need a plan.
Select the behavior that you are not comfortable with the child, and record this on the sheet. Write out those ideas which seem most effective in dealing with bad behaviour.
Try to stick to your plan and remember that there are always ways to overcome any difficulties.