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10 mistakes of parents that prevent making the child successful

 

All parents dream that their kid grew happy, healthy, successful. But, unfortunately, we frequently made mistakes in parenting, because raising children, relying on their instincts.

We have no special schools for young parents, except for childbirth preparation courses. However, no one bothers to educate ourselves, to read books of famous psychologists and then apply them in life.

Tell about the most common errors in education.

10. You develop child age


You need to start to engage with the child in early childhood, because kids are like a sponge, absorb new knowledge. But it is important not to make mistakes.

If you want to do with your child, read books teachers, psychologists and, based on them, create your own lesson plan. So, experts do not recommend teaching your child to read to 3-4 years, because it takes a lot of time and effort.

At this age, the baby's energy should be spent on the development of other skills, e.g. gross and fine motor skills.

Children need to be engaged, but not to learn to read, and to develop thinking, attention and memory.

9. Impose your ambitions


That the baby had very diverse interests, he needs to try myself in different spheres. If he wants to sign up for some study group, do not deny him. Let them try, learns and develops. Did not like – choose another direction.

But overload it and not worth it. The child should be free time for games, walks, kids have a lot of run and jump, fool around and have fun.

Let him choose what he is interested. He shouldn't impose their ambitions. So, if you all life dreamed to play the piano, the child is not required to go to a music school. Maybe he likes to play football, or visit the section on tennis. Always listen to the wishes of the child.

8. Give him ready answers


Children are born inquisitive, curious, eager to learn about the world. It is important that the enthusiasm have not waned. Constantly talk to him tell about the world. For us it is usual and familiar, and for children to see a crane or a garbage car to the whole event.

You can not just communicate with children and to consider logical relationships. Teach your child to think, often ask him various questions. If you don't know something, right when it open the encyclopedia or dictionary and together search for answers to questions.

7. Too early gave the child to school


Now, many parents seek to send their children to school in 6 years, so he started training faster. But psychologists do not agree. Children don't just have to go to school in 7 years. These figures were taken not from the ceiling.

If the child goes to school at 6 or 6.5 years old, his brain is not yet ready to learn. The child will learn regardless of his nature. Because of this, first-graders may lose interest in learning, reduce academic performance.

And some children start to get sick. All experience stress in adapting to school, but the six-year-olds are the most difficult to adapt to new conditions.

6. You forget about physical activity


Mugs, good performance and assessment is good. But remember that your task is to educate comprehensively harmoniously developed personality. This means that it is important to take the time to not only mental stress, but physical as well.

Children need to walk, preferably for about 3 hours a day. They have to run and jump. After that, they will be able to cope with mental stress, will quickly make homework.

5. Scold the child for what he cannot concentrate on the job


Psychologists say that children of 7-8 years, it is difficult to focus on one thing. They can keep the attention for about 7 minutes. After that, they need a break.

Do not scold the child if he is constantly distracted when he writes, reads or draws. You should not demand the impossible from him. Only after 9 years you can enter a rule that the child must first do their homework and then play.

4. You too fast baby come to the rescue


Remember your childhood and see how it goes in modern children. The difference is huge. If we ran through the streets, in the 7 years he was completely independent, now many children mums the handle is withdrawn in school until the 5th grade. Children grow infantile, not adapted to life. And it's not very good.

The child becomes accustomed to the fact that mom is always there, always support and understand with all problems. But it is important to become independent, to grow up and get smarter, because "Mama's sons", or spoiled daughters will be difficult to find their place in life.

3. You too overestimate the child's self esteem


Praise is a good impetus to move forward. But lately, in the West, and we have a trend to increased self-esteem. We have become too often to praise your child for all his success and trying to support it, providing baby a disservice.

Always a pleasure when you are praised, especially the mother or the father. But the child lives in a society that evaluates its behavior. Sooner or later he will understand that parents praised him, and really, nothing outstanding he did not commit.

Never flatter your baby, praise, if he really deserved it. It is desirable to have adequate self-esteem, not low, not high.

2. You don't talk about your past mistakes


You will not be able to live a teenager's life, he needs to learn from their mistakes, to fill their own cones. Get over it, you need to allow the child to live his life.

But this does not mean that we are unable to advise, to talk about the mistakes of his past. If you do not get involved in morals, and talk to a teenager about their mistakes, discuss with them the dangers of drugs, Smoking and alcohol, he can listen.

It is important to talk about their feelings, to remember what you did when you were in a similar situation, than were guided, making this or that act.

1. You do not do what you teach your children


Caring about the future of your child, we often try to make sure that he was better, more successful, happier. But in any family the parents are leaders, who lead the younger generation. The child, not just listening to their words, but also copies their behavior.

No wonder they say that children mirror their parents. If you children are told some truths, try to follow them themselves.

So, you're saying that you can't cheat and are lying to friends and family. Children will follow your lead. Understand yourself, understand why you need to do so, and not otherwise, and teach it to their children.

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